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Dandelions and Orchids

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by Aubrey Patterson

 

It is widely accepted that we are a product of both nature and nurture.

In an influential academic paper in 2005, Dr. Tom Boyce and Dr. Bruce Ellis introduced the flower metaphor of orchids and dandelions.

They concluded that children who are less sensitive and more resilient are like dandelions, which tend to thrive in any circumstances. Very sensitive children, conversely, are more like orchids that need a nurturing environment to flourish.

So what about you?

Of course, we'd all love to be more like the dandelion.

Why doesn’t constant trampling defeat the dandelion? The key to its strength is its long and sturdy root, which extends deep into the earth. The same principle applies to people. The true victors in life are those who, enduring repeated challenges and setbacks, have sent the roots of their being to such a depth that nothing can shake them. - Daisaku Ikeda

Most of us are somewhere in between.

We're more like tulips, which need much less care than an orchid but won't withstand repeated trampling or constant bad weather.

Gardening and Leadership

While this flower metaphor might be interesting as a self-assessment, its power lies in its application to the people we serve. 

We certainly shouldn't put people into boxes or use this metaphor to cast judgement. However, wondering if someone is more of a dandelion or an orchid helps us exercise empathy in difficult situations.

Like effective teachers and gardeners, remarkable leaders understand who needs a little water, warmth, or sunshine. 

 


 

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