The Highlight Reel: The Stories We Tell Ourselves

 by Aubrey Patterson

In 2005, the National Science Foundation published an article that found the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day, of which 80% are negative and 95% are repetitive thoughts from the previous day.

Our minds too often focus on the negative and create a playlist that loops all day long.

Another study in that same year (Leahy, Cornell University), identified that 85% of our worries never materialize and 97% of our worries are baseless.

Now, not all negative thoughts are created equally. Being aware of danger can help us survive, but most negative thoughts are wasted mental calories, serving only to create pessimism and useless drama.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.  - Lao Tzu

Surface and Nurture Positive Thoughts

The highlight reel, an exceptionally powerful tool from David Nurse's book, Pivot & Go, shifts our thoughts from negative to positive:

1. Recall a moment when you were at the top of your game. Perhaps you taught an incredible lesson to wide-eyed students, or you delivered a great speech to an engaged crowd, or you had a great time with your kids that left everyone wanting the moment to never end.
2. Next, visualize yourself during this moment. This might seem a little awkward at first but, as with any exercise, you'll build muscle memory with practice.

Accessing a reel is an effective strategy in a difficult moment. If we want to get the most out of this process, we should make it a habit to replay our highlight reels at least three times a day during routines like brushing our teeth or driving to work.

This isn’t an aspirational model.

We can do what we are imagining and pivot our self-talk toward being positive.

Imagine the possibilities if we replaced our tired negative playlists with positive highlight reels.

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